> You don’t get to decide if another human’s feelings are valid or not.
Consider for a moment the borderline[0], they can experience intense feelings that have no basis in fact and often file false reports with authorities based on those feelings. They can act out with sadness or anger due to a perceived slight that the mentally well wouldn't consider. Example: being a few minutes late to return a phone call, or even on time can result in threats of suicide.
Then consider someone with a eating disorder, they may feel obese while being objectively underweight.
Consider the paranoid that feels they are being gang stalked [1].
Feelings aren't always valid. Sometimes validating improper feelings is harmful to the person with them.
Consider for a moment the borderline[0], they can experience intense feelings that have no basis in fact and often file false reports with authorities based on those feelings. They can act out with sadness or anger due to a perceived slight that the mentally well wouldn't consider. Example: being a few minutes late to return a phone call, or even on time can result in threats of suicide.
Then consider someone with a eating disorder, they may feel obese while being objectively underweight.
Consider the paranoid that feels they are being gang stalked [1].
Feelings aren't always valid. Sometimes validating improper feelings is harmful to the person with them.
[0]https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disor...
[1]https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gang_stalking