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Maybe. But usually that means you spend more time at work. I have two family members with medical issues, so we hit the out of pocket max in medical bills every year (and possibly more due to some things being coded incorrectly and nobody being able to fix it).

Then there's the fact that you need concensus for things. Like can we move to another area? No, wife doesn't want to ever leave the county. Should buy an unaffordable house? No, that's financial suicide. Wife wants another kid, but also complains that I don't do enough (not going into it, but she's way off base). I don't want another kid due to all that I have to do for the current one and her (she needs help with many things).

In theory, we could each pretty much decide these things unilaterally. In practice, that's likely to result in divorce even if we have more money.



Mostly just sounds like you don't like / get along with your wife, which sucks for you but isn't true for a lot of people.


The reasoning still stands that two people will not always agree, and that difficult situations (medical) can exist in a relationship and reduce the viable options.


Yes, but you said "life becomes this" not "life could become this", and ignored the fact that this "could" can definitely be made more or less likely through your own actions and the actions of those around you.


Please, show me where I said/ignored any of this.


> Once you get married and have a family, it's basically just grinding away at work, with chores, etc

It's basically not, that's just a summary of your experience.




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