A family needs 1 dedicated member to keep things together. You can't outsource parenthood. Society needs families that value raising children over money/careers. Being a parent is choosing to put another being's needs before yours. It's choosing sacrifice. Don't do it unless you're 100% sure about this. Having a child is not a milestone in your life. In many ways, it's the end of it. However, it will also teach you the value of patience, forgiveness, and generosity. And it will make you a kinder person as you age